You cannot control the addiction. But you can understand the tensions — and act differently within them. ETOS helps you find your own position without losing yourself.
ETOS detects: High care combined with low self-protection creates ethical debt — not toward the person with addiction, but toward yourself.
Carers of people with addiction find themselves in one of the most complex tension fields that exists. There is no perfect solution — only choices that all carry a cost.
ETOS is not here to give you the answer. It is here to make the tension visible — so you can act with more clarity.
You try to help — but the help does not work. It feels like you are doing everything wrong.
You feel responsible — but cannot always tell what is yours to carry and what is not.
You love this person — but you are losing yourself in the process.
You do not know when to hold on, when to let go — and when to leave.
"I help carers understand complex situations and find their own direction — without losing themselves."
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For carers who know Bankeren from the children's universe — or who simply need to feel something before talking about it — Bankeren is a quiet tool in the programme.
Not mandatory, but powerful in conversations where words are not enough to begin.
See the Bankeren product →All four modules in one day. Intensive and concrete. Suitable for groups who know each other.
One module per week over four weeks. Time to let the insights land and work in everyday life.
ETOS as a conversation tool in individual sessions. Most flexible and personally adapted.
The programme is in its pilot phase and open to the first participants. You can start with a free 30-minute introductory conversation — no obligation, no agenda.
Free introductory conversation · 30 min · no obligation
● Pilot running
Would you like to test it in your real situation? 90 min · free · no preparation.
Important: ETOS programmes are not emergency support, therapy, or treatment. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, or this involves violence, abuse, or self-harm right now, contact emergency services, a doctor, psychiatric emergency care, or a relevant crisis service.
What you share in a conversation is used only to conduct the programme and improve the method — it is not shared further without agreement.