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ETOS Programme · Relatives of people with addiction

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et menneske
i misbrug

You cannot control the addiction. But you can understand the tensions — and act differently within them. ETOS helps you find your own position without losing yourself.

Typical tension field — carers
Care for the otherHøj
Self-protectionLav
Room for actionBegrænset
Relational trustModerat

ETOS detects: High care combined with low self-protection creates ethical debt — not toward the person with addiction, but toward yourself.

What you know

Du prøver at hjælpe.
Det virker ikke.
Du mister dig selv.

Carers of people with addiction find themselves in one of the most complex tension fields that exists. Der er ikke nogen rigtig løsning — kun valg der alle har en pris.

ETOS is not here to give you the answer. It is here to make the tension visible — so you can act with more clarity.

Du prøver at hjælpe — men hjælpen giver ikke resultat. Det føles som om du gør alt forkert.

You feel responsible — but cannot always tell what is yours to carry and what is not.

Du elsker vedkommende — men du er ved at miste dig selv i processen.

You do not know when to hold on, when to let go — and when to leave.

What ETOS is in this context

Not therapy. Not a solution. But overview and direction.

ETOS is not

Treatment

Not therapy or psychological help
Not treatment of the addiction
Not a solution to the relationship
ETOS er

Guidance

Systemic guide
Decision support
Reflection framework
ETOS gives

Clarity

Overview of the tensions
Your own position made visible
Decisions with more direction

"I help carers understand complex situations and find their own direction — without losing themselves."

The programme

Four modules · four steps

Click a module to see the content and exercise.

01

Understand the situation

What is actually happening?
Indhold
Introduction to ETOS — simple and concrete
Helping vs. protecting yourself
Love vs. boundaries
Hope vs. reality
Øvelse
👉 "Your situation"
You adjust three sliders: risk, relational trust and your own level of strain. ETOS shows your current field of tension.
Clarity about the situation Named tension
02

See yourself

Where do I stand?
Indhold
Responsibility vs. guilt — the important difference
What is mine — what is not mine
Ethical debt: what you owe yourself
Øvelse
👉 "My responsibility"
Three columns: What I can influence · What I cannot · What I think I should be able to. The separation is liberating.
Clarity Relief Realism
03

Beslutninger

What do I do now?
Indhold
ETOS as a decision tool in practice
When to act — and when to stop
Setting boundaries without giving up the relationship
Øvelse
👉 "Next steps"
What is one action? What is one boundary? What is one thing you stop? Three concrete answers — not plans, but steps.
Concrete action A boundary set
04

Relationship and future

How do I live with this?
Indhold
Relationship without control — what it requires
Acceptance without giving up
Rebuilding your own life alongside
Øvelse
👉 "My life alongside"
What gives me energy? What have I lost? What do I want to rebuild? Three answers that point forward — not back.
Own life visible Direction forward
Optional element

Bankeren in the programme

For carers who know Bankeren from the children's universe — or who simply need to feel something before talking about it — Bankeren is a quiet tool in the programme.

Not mandatory, but powerful in conversations where words are not enough to begin.

See the Bankeren product →
Example from a session
Participant: "I don't know what I feel. It's just... heavy."
→ Chooses purple colour on Bankeren
"Purple. That fits. It is something inward."
The conversation starts from there — from what was felt, not what was explained.
Format

Three ways to participate

🏛

Workshop

All four modules in one day. Intensive and concrete. Suitable for groups who know each other.

3–4 hours · in person · small groups
📅

Programme

One module per week over four weeks. Time to let the insights land and work in everyday life.

4 weeks · online or in person · group or solo
🤝

1:1 counselling

ETOS as a conversation tool in individual sessions. Most flexible and personally adapted.

Arranged individually · online or in person
Pilot programme

Take the first step

The programme er i pilotfase og er åbent for de første deltagere. Du kan starte med en gratis introduktionssnak på 30 minutter — ingen forpligtelse, ingen dagsorden.

Free introductory conversation · 30 min · no obligation

● Pilot running

Would you like to test it in your real situation? 90 min · free · no preparation.

See the pilot package →