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ETOS Programme · Community and bullying

When communities
create distance

Bullying is not an individual problem — it is a tension problem in the community. ETOS helps schools, institutions and workplaces see tensions early and act precisely.

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The paradigm shift
Who did what?
What is out of balance?
Individual blame
Structural tension
Sanction and rule
Understanding and design
Reactive intervention
Early visibility

ETOS: The problem is not one pupil — but the community's field of tension.

What you know

It is not always clear who is doing something wrong. But someone is still left out.

Bullying and exclusion are rarely simple or black-and-white. It arises where relationships, roles and structures meet — and cannot be solved through rules and sanctions alone.

ETOS gives schools, institutions and workplaces a shared language for what is happening — and tools to act early and precisely.

Someone is left out — but no one "bullies directly". It is hard to act on something you cannot put into words.

You react too late — because the tensions are not visible enough to trigger action before the harm is done.

You talk about individuals — but the problem sits in the community. The intervention misses its target.

It repeats itself — because the culture does not change, only the behaviour is temporarily corrected.

Versioning

Same model — different complexity

The ETOS model is adapted to age and context. The underlying logic is the same — the language layer and exercises are adapted to age and context.

0–5
Nursery · Safety

Atmosphere and sensation

Very visual. The Banker is used as a shared emotional language. Colours = the group atmosphere. The teacher asks: "How are you today?" — the child points.

6–16
School · Relationships

Roles and group dynamics

Social roles are made visible without locking in. Who is at the centre? Who is on the edge? Focus on dynamics — not blame.

Adult
Workplace · Culture

Power and invisible hierarchies

Focus on cultural tensions and invisible power structures. Who defines the norm? Who is quietly excluded?

The programme

Four modules · from visibility to culture

01

See the tension

What is actually going on?
Content
Belonging vs. exclusion
Status vs. safety
Group vs. individual
Visible vs. invisible behaviour
Exercise
👉 "Map the group"
Who is at the centre? Who is on the edge? Where is the tension greatest? Not blame — but structure.
Patterns made visibleNot blame — structure
02

Positions in the community

Who does what — and why?
Content
The excluded · The dominant
The quiet · The follower
Roles without locking in
Exercise
👉 "Position map"
Where do children/employees move? Who changes position? Understanding dynamics — not labelling.
Dynamics understoodLess labelling
03

Intervention

What do we do — and when?
Content
When to step in
When to observe
When to change structure
Exercise
👉 "Action"
What do we change in the space? Who do we support? What do we stop?
Precise actionRight timing
04

Culture and prevention

How do we avoid it again?
Content
Community design
Safety vs. hierarchy
Language and norms that hold
Exercise
👉 "New community"
What must be clear? What do we not accept? What do we want to build?
Culture changedPrevention built in
Example

ETOS in practice — a school situation

One pupil is excluded · No one "directly bullies" · Year 6 High social divergence
The situation
Pupil is not invited into groups
No direct incidents to address
The teacher knows something is wrong — but what?
ETOS detects
High social divergence in the group
Low relational trust towards the excluded pupil
The problem is the community's structure — not one pupil
The teacher's insight
Change the structure — not the pupil
Redesign the group composition
Create situations that increase trust
Format

Three ways to work with it

🏫

Workshop

For teachers, educators or leaders. Concrete case work with ETOS live.

3–4 hours · in person · team
📅

School programme

Four weeks with one module per week. Work with your own class, group or department.

4 weeks · online or in person
🏛

Institution pilot

The whole school or department works with ETOS. Creates shared language and early intervention.

Municipality agreement · whole institution
Start the dialogue

Try ETOS in your institution

Start with a no-obligation conversation about your specific situation and context.

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Free introductory conversation · no obligation · tailored to your context

● Pilot running

Would you like to test it in your real situation? 90 min · free · no preparation.

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